Thank you Marine0311, She Cat, Dameia and Kathy. I appreciate your concern and comments.

Basically I'm convinced this is his PTSD and so I'm trying to give him his space. I only contact him once a day (8 pm) if he hasnt already contacted me for the day, which he usually does. This is just to fill him in on things happening here and with our baby. He seems to appreciate that. Today we talked a little, it being our anniversary, and he was still confused. He said he thinks he wants a divorce but he doesnt know. Then he said he wants to take it day by day. So thats what we're doing. He loves me but he's not in love with me and he measured that based on the amount of love he feels for our daughter and how natural he says that is. But he also admitted that he feels he could fall back in love with me he just thinks this will happen again. I think he really needs to get comprehensive help for his PTSD. But I'm not gonna force that right now. He seems like he's starting to come around now that the holidays are over. But its hard because so many of our friends are starting to break up too.

I am in the process of getting my counseling started. And I think he's already in counseling but whenever we do talk I'm gonna really stress the importance of making sure he's completely honest with them so he can get the help he needs. I dont see this being the end and the way I know him, this happened too random for it to really be the end. He's generally been like that he wants to stay married he just doesnt wanna hurt me and that the problems we're having he doesnt see a way to end them and I think thats the PTSD overwhelming him...so I'm just gonna keep supporting him and taking care of myself and daughter and keeping the doors open.

But I dont want this to happen again. So, for after he comes home, how do we stop this from repeating?