Yeh thanks Kathy I can see what you mean.
For years I have put up with him not getting out of bed and I would make excuses to friends ( which he doesnt have any more) that he wasnt well and needed his sleep?
Its only in the last couple of years that I dont keep it to myself anymore where is he is concerned I tell people that he is bed whereas I used to be embarrassed to say he was in bed.
Only recently my Mum said that they knew what was going on but she is glad now that I talk about him to her?

I went through a stage of waking him up earlier to try to get him going for the day but was just met with anger from him and if he did get out of bed earlier he would be back on the couch by lunchtime!