Jen, nobody can tell you what the right choices are for you, only you can decide those things yourself. Those of us with PTSD will say those type of things though to make our carers feel guilty, it is merely part of the emotional abuse cycle really. If it works, use it basically, so he is. If you live with it, then he will keep doing it. Maybe you need to start making him realize that if he doesn't begin pulling his finger out of his arse and doing, instead of talking, then maybe you just won't be coming home every night. He will try and make you feel guilty, trust me on that. I did it myself for some time until I got my kick in the arse.