Thanks guys for all your input it makes a lot of sense and helpful information!
I spoke to my Mum tonight and told her I was getting someone else to help me at work as hubby was letting me down and I was getting to stressed about him not helping me?
I told her I feel guilty that I have done this?
I spoke to hubby tonight and said to him once he is feeling better and can manage to go to work one day a week we wont need the help this was greeted by a shrug of the shoulders and whatever!
Maybe me doing this may open his eyes that I need his help?

I know what you are going to say Anthony that now he will have no reason to get out of bed.
But I have kicked his arse so many times over the last couple of years to no avail!

And thats what my friends are saying how come when I was sick he picked himself up and did so well! Because he had to!!!
Sorry about all the jargon I got carried away!