Welcome Sarah,

What a great move you have made seeking help for yourself. Well done. Not all counsellors are equal, I will say that. I would recommend you attend your appointment, and you have to feel out for yourself whether the counsellor has scope with yourself to develop into a trusting relationship, but also the counsellor really does know what they are doing to help you for your situation. Not all counsellors are created equal, and they do generally have their specific areas of expertise, though often believe they are good at everything. If you come across one of those, run... otherwise, jump in feet first and see how you go.

Counselling is essential, because you must have that face to face interaction in your discussions, because it provides more human responses and you get a better feedback personally.

There is no shortage of spouses here now, all of which can certainly help you achieve your end aim...