Thank you both, very sensible advice, especially now that I am feeling a little more resigned to the idea of resting. Truly I was quite angry at my husband initially, for insisting on the housekeeper, and he did definitely insist! It seems to be taking me some time to grasp the concept of thinking of myself first. I am working on it though. I do see both your points, in that I will be quite useless to my family in future if I don't deal with this properly now.