Thank you so much for your replies. It's nice to have people I can talk to about this:)

Kathy, I don't know much about how the corps handles situations like this but my h is afraid of going through the military for help. Doesn't want to talk to his command, doesn't want to go to medical, because he doesn't want to loose his clearance. I mentioned something about seeing a private doc in town being confidential and he said "maybe." I've looked for support groups, group therapy, anything. There also seems to be no private docs here that have extensive experience with PTSD, combat or otherwise. I was hoping to find some info that I could present to him to help eliviate at least some of his fears of getting help but I seem to be hitting a brick wall. I hate to think of it, but there's also a possibility he's using the "clearance" argument as an excuse not to get help. He wants to believe he's strong enough to make everything go away, even now, though it's been five years and things are getting worse. I'm very concerned about the downward spiral I'm seeing in him and also concerned about how this is all effecting my son. He doesn't think Dad loves him any more and when I try to explain that Dad just problems he's dealing with I can tell he doesn't believe me. Can't blame him when h goes almost all night without even acknowledging the little guy is there.

Damiea, you have a very good point. I don't think it's lack of knowing (his father has PTSD from service in Beruit that went untreated for 10 years....he's on meds, still in therapy and doing much better) but I think he's still fighting that he has it at all. He doesn't want to have it. We haven't had a discussion on how he feels but based on what I know about him, he would see it as a weekness, and he's a Marine. "Weak Marine is an oxymoron." If something isn't killing him he's strong enough to tough it out, that's his attitude. hmmm.....wonder if he'll ever see that it IS killing him, slowly.

I know I shouldn't, and won't, push him to get help but I'm wondering if there's any way for me to at least help him see the reality and seriousness of what he's dealing with.