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Originally Posted by jolene  I don't think it's lack of knowing (his father has PTSD from service in Beruit that went untreated for 10 years....he's on meds, still in therapy and doing much better) but I think he's still fighting that he has it at all. He doesn't want to have it. |
This is interesting Jolene. What is his relationship like, with his father? Perhaps he is ashamed of him, worried that he is becoming his father, all the "weak" points of his father that he is ashamed of, or something similar? My husband's father had PTSD from serving in Korea, and for years Jim considered him weak rather than ill, and was quite disgusted with him.
I do understand how difficult it is for service men to seek help, it is still quite a stigma. There are more helps in place now than previously, however that doesn't make it any easier. He could very well be in denial regarding having PTSD, or using having clearance as an excuse to not seek help. It is difficult to say if he is not being completely upfront with you. We have a few members here who are or have been in the military and I hope some of them will answer you on this aspect.
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Originally Posted by jolene I know I shouldn't, and won't, push him to get help but I'm wondering if there's any way for me to at least help him see the reality and seriousness of what he's dealing with. |
You are quite correct that pushing may only make matters worse. Unfortunately he does need to grasp the seriousness of this on his own. There may be times when you can bring up the subject "safely" and offer certain suggestions, however he does need to make the decision on his own. He needs to reach a point where he realizes he needs help and wants that help. Before that point, more pushing may simply make him more strongly opposed to the idea.
Damiea had a good suggestion, that he read here, if he agrees. There is much good information upon this forum, and he needn't become a member if he doesn't feel comfortable. Alternately you could print out articles for him to read. The information forums are a good place to start. Also for yourself. Please read as much as you are able, and ask all the questions you wish, of the carers and the sufferers as well. This is unfortunately a problem with no easy or quick solution, you are in it for the "long haul" as my husband would say.
Please do ensure that you also take care of yourself and also your precious child. I have seen far too many spouses become enmeshed in the situation with their ill partner and forget themselves and their own needs in the process. Have you read the following article:
How Does PTSD Effect Family Life? Especially For Families With Children
It is from Veterans Affairs, and specifically tailored for people with younger children, such as yourself. It may be of some help. Take care and please keep posting.