I don't think I'm selfabsorbed when I can't handle everyday tasks, I'm begining to understand that it is something out of my control. It's not my fault, it's something I have to deal with everyday, even though my partner may try to be there for me... the littlest request (having to cook a meal, let the dog out, etc.) sets me off like a firecracker. I'm a small girl, but even my 100lb pittbull gets the hell out of my way when I snap. It can't be considered self absorbed if I can't control it.

I do feel self absorbed when I freak and expect my partner to keep the peace. Maybe he had a bad day too, and doesn't need my "freakouts" added to his day. I know he keeps stressful things to himself, just so that I don't have to deal with more madness, and to ask this of someone.... makes me feel kinda self absorbed. So I'm trying to explain my frustration to him rather than take it out on him...

to me the arguement can go either way