Jen,

You may have to do just that........once he is there he will realise its the best thing that he could have done. Its just getting him there. He will stress about it and increase his anxiety but don't let that put you off. Be firm with him, he needs a boot in the ass. We can both see that. Good on you for standing up to his bs besides he's already suffered the trauma, it can't get any worse than that. If he has to relive some of the trauma this time he is at home, in a safe environment with people who love and care for him. Remind him of that........often, it will sink in eventually.