Hello Jolene, I totally understand what you say about him 'not wanting to have it'. Thats a common thing for PTSD sufferers. I dont want to have it either! It a hard pill to swallow for most of us. Most, if not all of us go through the denial stage. I did and still do on occassion. I feel I shouldn't have it, I'm strong, confident etc. All that stuff, it must be even harder if you are in the military and also male. The thing is until he does accept it, and if it is PTSD then he can use all his qualities, strength, stubborness etc to work for him and help him get himself better. He's got to reach the point of needing to change things though and he can only do that on his own. You can support him and help him with it but its his decision to start with.