Thanks for the replies.

Kim's Man,

Thanks, I can't believe the similarities with what you described and with what we are going through. I like the poem and it does hit home. But...its hard. I don't want "just listening" to look like " just waiting for her to shut up". I always feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.

My post was not lost. When I posted it I found that it was not in the spouse chat. It was available to all. I scrambled to remove it. I am limited to what I will say in the general forum. I would take my chances in the spouse chat forum but I think that membership is based on posts. So.. I'm stuck!!. Yet another rock and hard place.