Yep, Jen, I think you are right. After putting up with this for 25 years I think you have a right to say enough is enough. You've sure got more patience than me, I tolerated it for two 1/2 years and that was enough for me. You are also a lot more polite than I was with Anthony, but he's a lot younger and very pig headed. Only way to deal with him is straight up. I didn't even bother insisting, it was basically VVCS card, deal with it or I'm out of here. Like you, I point blank refuse to waste my life with someone who knows they have an illness but won't help themselves heal. You both deserve better!! Please keep us posted as to how you are both going, keep strong, I'm in your corner.