I can relate to how you feel regarding the inlaws. The only thing that helps me is to try and remember that it's their "little boy/brother." They probably aren't going to be quick to see the pain his actions are causing you and may not understand just how much support you need right now. As for what's best for him, you are his wife, you are around him, you live with the effects every day. You see the havoc it reeks in both your lives. It's hard to take the in laws' criticism, but try to do so with a grain of salt. Even though the intentions are good in telling you it's not what's best for him, frankly, they can't possibly know at this point since they are so far away and have limited involvement in your lives. Get all the support you can from the board and try not to take their lack of support for you too personally. I know it's hard, but it's one more pressure you just don't need right now.