HI Sunny,

I can't answer for anyone but myself. I too was molested by both of my brothers. One for years, and the other only once. We had a love/hate relationship growing up. There was abuse, and dysfunction in our home for my entire life there. I acted out, and was an angry person. My brothers sought comfort in being mean to me, and my mother took their side even when I told her about the sexual abuse.

We fought a lot, my brothers and I through out childhood, and even into early adulthood. Now as I get older I have NO contact with them, or any member of my family, but I have learned this along the way. My entire family lived in dysfunction, and through abuse. All of us were victims. Do I hate my siblings? No. Do I hate their actions? Yes, but I also had actions through out my life that I also don't forgive myself of. I call it the legacy of abuse/dysfunction.