If you are not in to the bath thing there are shower disks. I have not tried them, but they do promise the same aroma therapy a bubble bath offers.

Personally I think you need to be blunt with hubby, but that is just me, I do not know your home life. I sucked it up and was and said this is what I need. He also did not read (at least not in front of me) my post its. He respected my boundaries. You did marry him. Maybe he deserves a little trust? If anyone our spouse deserves a fighting chance, they can surprise you, I do know that!