I don't think they were talking about co-dependency, because I don't think that would be something that is controversial and they acknowledged that what they were saying was.

But, it may be the case that I am misunderstanding them anyway, perhaps they are trying to get at something else entirely that I just kind of missed. I hope so, but whatever it is that they meant by it, it is good for us to have a chance to talk about it and air it out.

I am sorry to hear that the title offended you. Is it because of the word "controversy"? I figured this might be a controversial post - so was warning people who don't like / get upset by conflict (I used to be one - and sometimes still am) (am trying to think of a different word to use but now can't think of one) so that they didn't stumble in here unawares and then get upset by the content.

So, I was trying to avoid upsets by using that title. Oh well, best laid plans of mice and insomniacs.

KM