Thank you to each and everyone who has answered this post. Its great to hear it from the carer's point of view too. Email might be the easiest way for me to do this. scared he will say no but if i email him i will never have to know that he said no - he will either do it or he wont. So thanks again. Just got to pluck up the courage to do it. And i will. I have to. for BOTH of us.