I had the same problem with my husband and making love. It took me days to work up the courage to tell him what was going on with me. He told me he knew something was wrong, but didn't know exactly what. Being honest with him about what I was feeling and going through was the best thing. We were able to work things out where if I was feeling 'off' or if memories were pushing through I could tell him and we could stop until I felt better. And also he knew that certain things he did triggered this and stopped doing them.

Like Morgan said, there's more to your relationship with your partner than just sex. If you need to stop being intimate for a while until you're in a better place, be honest with your husband and let him know. Talk, be open and honest. It's the way to get through all of this. And just because being intimate is the last thing you want at the moment doesn't mean you're going to lose your husband. You're looking at the worst and making it your reality.

Lisa