wow i missed alot from the past couple days... i can understand how someone who hasnt been in my situation could think otherwise, but i think people have misconceptions about how things that i post come across. and that might be my fault... ive never used my husbands PTSD as an excuse. because its not. and never has been. its hard for anyone that hasnt lived under this roof, to get the whole story of my life experiences with my husbands PTSD. and its hard to post it all of course. 4 years is a long time, and i dont have that much time to write everything that is goin on. but i definatly feel misunderstood. and sometimes feel looked down upon. which isnt the best feeling in the world, when im only tring to get support. i dont expect anyone to understand. but even with things i dont agree with or just dont know about, i dont want someone to feel like their life is all wrong and shameful. that doesnt help anyone get better. and definatly not motivating.

depending on situations, the military does take action when it comes to DV. however, officers, drs, counselors, and anyone with enough authority, had a base meeting and all agreed that my husbands tendancy to abuse and his mental health issues was due to untreated PTSD. and did not punish him. he can be promoted if it was time, he was not court marshalled. he was not punished whatsoever by the military. he does not even have DV on his record. it was downgraded to offensive harrassment because of his mental status and lack of proper treatment of PTSD. you can all argue about it, but thats the fact with my sitatuation. his actions of hitting is soley his responsibility. and hes always taken responsibility for that.