I wish I had some advice for you, but I am also in a similar situation. I can't deal with anyone touching me sometimes, especially when I feel stressed or if I think they may be mad at me. My girlfriend is trying to understand, but finds it all very frustrating. We had the argument about it last night because I didn't want to have sex (again!). I wish there was a better way to explain it without hurting her feelings. There is not really a nice way to tell her that touching me makes my brain scream "No! No! Danger!".