Ladies,

This is from the other point of view but my 2 cents nonetheless,

I think dealing with these situations takes very little action but alot of patience. Sometimes the best thing to do is to let the situation die, if you give the person enough room to calm down and start "thinking" about the situation things will be better. When I blow up I really need to be left alone for a few minutes and I am fine shortly after. It is only when I feel we are beating a dead horse and a conversation is getting lengthy and repetetive that I get frustrated. We need room sometimes, and if we need to talk we will come to you. I think there is such a thing as "over helping", when we do try to ge that alone time but feel overwhelmed by someone constantly asking you what is wrong it can make the situation worse because we are not given that cool off time. I know its hard to back off when you care, but you kinda have to let us help our selves our own ways.

There is no intention to make you anyones punching bag. Sometimes things are done out of frustration and anger gets the best of us. For example, the sandwhich situation, I am sure he wanted that sandwhich really bad but by tossing the note and not eating the sandwhich he basically just told you that he was still upset without having to talk. I do things like that all the time. I know it can be a bit frustrating when you need closure and you dont get it. In our eyes its more like this is one less thing that I want to be bothered with and have to talk about. As guys an Marines especially you are not acustomed to talk about your problems, so that being a factor aswell makes it that much more challenging, but arent Marines worth it?