When I start to feel like a receptical, I stop having sex. I have certain issues that I can deal with, but for the most part I have slowly gotten over my major sex issues.
When I first started dating, and finally had sex, they became my abusers and I would have to end it.
I would suggest that your husband massage your body with no intention of sex afterwards. You may have shut off your feelings, because if it feels good, you may blame yourself, (that you enjoyed the rape, not true, but guilt is a wicked shadow.)
and begin to feel,,,,,,,,,,,,,,feel,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,feel,,,,,, ,,,,,,,,,,how your body is feeling.
Try to connect the pleasure of touch with goodness, imagery is a great thing, like being at an ocean resort that is deserted and the massage is taking place there.
There aren't many gifts God has given that are truly outstanding, but in my humble opinion, the orgasm is one of them.
I hope these suggestions can help you, you do need to learn how to turn your body back on for all kinds of reasons, pain from an accident etc etc etc and of course for pleasure.
Babysteps is all we can take, one day at a time, hope this helps, understandings from experience.
Donna-Lynne