Hey DesertDweller,
I agree with the whole needing space thing thats why i mentioned it in my first post when answering Sarah's question about methods that other spouses use to try to make peace w/ their significant others when they are in one of those awkward not talking phases????
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We need room sometimes, and if we need to talk we will come to you. I think there is such a thing as "over helping", when we do try to ge that alone time but feel overwhelmed by someone constantly asking you what is wrong it can make the situation worse because we are not given that cool off time
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Yup they do need
a lot of room, but i have also notice that eventually he will start coming to you once you have backed off a bit. One thing i suggest to people with PTSD is letting the person know you
need to cool off and have alone time so that nobody feels they are being pushed away in a bad way and get their feelings hurt. Because yes, sometimes when you feel we are "over-helping" we feel i haven't done the right thing to help him yet so i have to keep going. So a "hey im not upset with you, im just a bit overwhelmed right now and i need some time to cool off" doesnt sound too horrible to me....its all about how good the communication is
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I am sure he wanted that sandwhich really bad but by tossing the note and not eating the sandwhich he basically just told you that he was still upset without having to talk
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This seems so childish to me... if someone is upset why not just come out and say it...or better yet talk about why you are upset and how it can be better? and get it over with! I dont see why someone would have to "hint" that they are upset....
And of course Marines are worth it lol i hope that was a joke! ;)