I do it to my husband. He is understanding so I am lucky. He sits in on some of my appointments to help him understand. I do unreasonable blow ups. It is not nature of the beast to sit and say I need space sweetly man or woman. We are working on it. I let little things irritate me and fester and fester until I blow at nonsense. I try to supress getting pissed until it all goes everywhere and have panic attacks.

Until anger is addressed in therapy and worked on I don't know what you can do. My doc is finding and bringing out I am feeling "not good enough" I am not on top of my game being super mom and pulling in almost $100,000 a year like I used to. I was capable of doing it while self medicating. Now that I don't and am losing the scripts also I can barely function and when he goes that extra mile at times I perceive it as just more thing I cannot do for myself and it makes me angry, who do I let loose on? The one I see making me feel like I am not good enough though I am trying to accept the fact that is my opinion not that of my husband. But that is how my head works.

I can understand how silence can be cut with a knife, and I know it is caused by me. But I need the space and silence. With my way of thinking it takes me a long time to finally come around to the same conclusion as my spouse did hours or the day before. Thinking process just is not the same. And yes, I act as if nothing happened and he is way over being pissed at me anymore and lets it go. But the last thing I want to do is rehash it and get fired up again, I just know I screwed up and want to move on from there. He knows me on a deep level and like I said sitting in every once in a while on a session to address this can do wonders when the doc puts a spin on it to help you understand.

Space can be hard, but it is needed. If I don't get mine when I need it my house could be leveled! Look at this way, he is doing you a favor avoiding you while he feels like this, otherwise it would just be taken out on you. I still don't understand at times I can act the way I do or why my mind sees things differently than what is actually happening. But in time I hope to see it improve, I am working on it... If it helps I don't know, but I hope it helps some.