Lord, the way he just described me made me feel like an ass. But Hope I asked him to respond to you as well, a spouse needs to answer it. Maybe both our takes will help. And you are helpful enough to me I pressured him.

Never give up your point of view but timing goes a long way. If I am in a mood I guess I can argue anything (so can our kid so who says it is all ptsd there?). But if in my mood I am not being argumentative I am really stating how things are from my perspective at the moment.

A shield you cannot bust through like he pointed out. You know if you are not trying to force a thought on me there is no shield. It only looks like it as it is being pushed too hard. Like Nic said many things can be hinted or said in passing. May not seem I am listening but it weighs on me hard. I do come around. I just need nudges not too firm in the right direction. I mat not respond as fast or the way one wants but I do come around. It seems to be like all marriages, it is a dance you learn. One you both share and do well together. Try another person you will trip and fall on your ass. This one takes knowing and trusting your partner from both sides.