I don't know what to say. Maybe, I could say more if my wife wasn't involved or able to read this. Here is an example of what I am talking about: I think right from the beginning because of my alcoholism, in regards to the children, my opinion always ends up secondary in regards to how to raise them. Instead of dealing with a specific issue about our children, my wife has a tendency to turn it around and make it an issue about me and not the children. And thus the specific issue that we began to opine about becomes lost. This seems to be the most prevalent problem we have, in my opinion, when we are involved in discussion.

Another examples is the very frustrating issue of overspending on the children with money we don't have. When I bring up the issue of overspending on the children, it can easily get turned around into an issue about our overspending on ciggerettes, and the issue of overspending on the children get lost and forgotten.

I certainly don't mean to say that every issue discussed by us has two different points of view or lacks my wife's consideration and respect. I do, however believe that I have been practicing picking my battles, but I am averse to bring these issues up at a later date due to the ramifications of her PTSD symptoms arising.

By the way, Thank you for all of your inputs regarding this matter. I have gained some insight and it has been very helpful.