Hi there

Personally no, but I did live with some people who fled Yugoslavia and were living in exile with me throughout that war. It is not just what happened to you most likely, but the concerns you may have for those you have left behind there.

There are things you cannot change, just as there are things I cannot. Right now I am reaching a place where I can sea the luck that I have had through the negatives that happened.

It may sound ridiculous but things could have been worse...you sound like you are physically fit, and also that your family remain well physically also. That is the invaluable part. It is hard, but the nightmares and flashbacks are a normal coping mechanism for the body in my belief to deal with an abnormal situation. Dreams allow the subconcious to release its tensions. They are just that much higher right now and no longer the type of typical nightmares we all have about falling etc.

With time I came to accept my nightmares for what they were on waking, and not feel anxiety so much about them. I would roll over and go back to sleep. It will get better, it's just the first throes of recovery, even though it may not seem like it at the moment.