Thats really excellent that it has helped you. Your absolutely right though, in that only the person themselves know when the time is right to push themselves further, look at pictures, maybe even revisit the country if safe to do so, and so forth. That is really good that you could take such positive steps for yourself and your road to a better life Madjon. Congratulations on a great achievement.

I had a conversation with a Vietnam Vet some time ago, who did actually end up revisiting Vietnam to help console some of the images and thoughts within himself and his PTSD, and he came back a different person. He regained a lot of his persona that had been lost since the war. He said, seeing the country as it is today, really helped shine a light on what it was then, and how things are now. He said, "the war isn't actually still happening anymore, but it was in my head!" The visit actually ceased the thoughts in his head of the war still occuring today, as the myth and the fact where two different things.

He said, "it was like getting a piece of himself back that had been missing for decades." I completely understood that, as I feel the same, in that I have little pieces of me left within each country I was involved in operations within. A little here, a little there, and then Timor just really knocked my socks off. It was never just one operation for me, I think it was a gradual buildup of operations over the years, where Timor was just the final straw that broke the camels back.

What really helped me relate to visiting the country again, was that when I was in Timor in 99, when it was classed as a war zone, then I returned under the UN in 2002 for another stint, it was like I did get some pieces of myself that I had left in 99 back again. Some of mass killings and incidents that occured where still around as shrines or memorials, ie. killing walls, killing rooms, etc etc, but from the first time when the country was burnt down, raped, pillaged and plundered by Indonesia, the country had reformed and was partially rebuilt in 02, they had a University built and operating again, and basically the East Timorese where much happier and moving forward in life, which really took a part of me. Whilst a little threat was still present in 02, it didn't bother me that much compared to what I endured in 99 when it was a war zone for good reason. A good part of me still remains in that country, but I got a little back atleast, which was comforting to myself. Saying that though, the trip still made me worse, as I had PTSD when deploying, and didn't know it... If only I knew then what I know now, I most certainly wouldn't have deployed again.

I don't think I am up to looking at pictures of conflicts I've been involved, but I do hope that my time comes just as it has for you. Hopefully it will help me to get past some of the past issues a bit clearer than currently.