Heya 3yrs. Welcome to the forum. You and I have plenty in common. Although it is heartbreaking and upsets me to hear situations like that, it was kind of relieving to hear your story. I am 22 and had a similar situation happen to me. I always blamed myself cause I didnt recognize the guy was bad news. I was married too and was just trying to be nice and help my career along while my hubby was in Iraq. Its funny how sometimes we can go from completely clueless (in which I mean not paying attention to potential dangers) to parnoid and untrusting. I think it has to do a lot with our age. When something happens when your young and you think your invincible and your so nice that no one would want to hurt you and then it does... its a devestating blow. The next thing you know, your questioning every decision youve ever made or will make. You start questioning the person you were, are, and want to be. Before you know it, you go from being an independent and Vibrant Leader among your peers, to an angry, confused, reserved and scared little girl. And as young females the last thing we want to do is have our picture plastered all over the 6 oclock news embarassing our family name. And then there is the fear of sitting on a witness stand having some defense attorney tear into every intimate detail of your past in the hopes of convincing a jury that you asked for it or in some way caused what happened, or lied about it. I personally hope you press charges against the SOB. Maybe it will give me the strength to press charges too. Anyway. Good for you for seaking help. I hope you find what you are looking for hear. You are among friends.:cool: