Kathy, my mother does not know of my PTSD or the severity of mental illness I deal with. However, my physical health crises are very stressful for her as she is just ready to see me well. That will not happen and I have accepted that but it is much harder on my mother. I can deal with my physical health problems so much easier then i can deal with the PTSD pain. Sometimes I think it is hardest on the mothers when we are physically sick...I don't think I am making much sense as I am sick again as well, but I think you know me well enough by this point to figure out whatever in the heck I am trying to say. Best wishes and strength to you and Evie both - and the rest of your family. =)