awwww - crap! i just made you a post but 'puter booted me and lost it. =\ Nothing earth shattering...just letting you know I cared for my terminally ill grandmother and know some of what you are going through. You will never regret caring for your mother, but you need to find a way to care for you so you are not under so much stress and are able to see this through without winding up in the hospital for one of many reasons. Can you get respite care of some sort? Find someway to regain some privacy? I am trying and when I am thinking better hopefully soon I will try to come up with some more concrete and creative suggestions...just wanted you to know I was thinking of you and praying for you both...