Herc,

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I know firsthand that beign a caregiver can by totally exhausting. Sometimes it just plain sucks! It's also a guilt trap: guilt over wanting to have a life of your own or thinking that you're not doing enough.

I don't know if this will help but I'm wondering if there's some little things you can do to give yourself a break or reclaim some of your privacy. When I was caring for my husband I used to escape and go for walks alone inspite of his protests. A few hours alone made a big difference. Can you find a way to set aside some time for yourself doing something that gives you peace without feeling guilty? Are there any local agencies that can help out so that you don't have to shoulder the burden alone?

I hope you can find a way to nurture yourself while caring for your mother. My thoughts are with you.

Ruddy