Superd,

I'm sorry to hear that you are so angry and frustrated at your wife. I would be too, if my spouse lied, stole, and told me he hated me. In fact, I won't have stuck around as long as you have. For that I applaud you.

Have you gone to counseling for yourself? Or together for your marriage? I've said this before to some people and it applies to you: you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of her. You deserve to be happy and if you're not well, mentally or physically, you won't be happy. Perhaps a counselor would help you understand what she is going through and might be able to give you some methods to help her and you. I don't know; I am just guessing. But, it's worth a shot. But also remember that whatever you do, it has to be right for you, not for anyone else.

Hang in there, Superd. Know that we are here for you.