Pastry, that's too bad that your husband won't let you help him with his finances. I have PTSD and my parents help me with finances, filling out forms, any kind of stuff like that. I find it extremely stressful otherwise. If I have to do it myself it just doesn't get done. I think it's pretty common to be stressed about those things when you have PTSD. I think there's a good possibility your husband might be stressed too but maybe he's also too proud to admit it? I don't know how to advise you, but I'd thought I'd let you know it might be a stressor for him, and that might be why he's currently avoiding it.