Hi Superd ,After reading your post here I can relate to your wife.

To be honest it took me a long time to realize what I was doing to my husband.In my case it is like''You do everything my way or take the highway.'

It is only recently I have realized that my behavior is not normal.In my case I have tested my husband.It is like I push him so far just to see how committed he is to me.If he does not understand me when I at my worst it is like I punish him emotionally.I call it been totally dependent on him in a distorted way.But in reality what I am really doing is trying to control him.I dont mean to.He used to get the blunt of my rages.Example I would call him all the names under the sun and be nasty verbally)He used to call it ''Raw Hatred'' towards him.To this day I cant understand why I done it.May,be there is someone on here that can explain it further.

Hope this post makes sense.

Andress