Welcome Samsara, lovely to have you on the forum. You are very correct about therapy needing to get worse before it gets better. However, there is definitely a light at the end of the tunnel. We have experienced this with our daughter, who has worked through much of her pain and is now doing splendidly well! I wish the same for you and your partner. It sounds as though you are on the right track attitude wise, which is an excellent beginning.