I'm all about balance and it takes females and males to achieve it IMO. I had an online friend who once was a psychiatrist but developed bipolar and had to quit.

He was the best teacher I ever had. I would send him boo hoo e-mails about my poor pathetic life and he would tell me to get over it and that I'm not a victim I'm a survivor.

He also taught me about achieving boundaries and to accept the dark side of myself which was one of the scariest things I ever did, and he helped me along the way.

He shared some of his truths with me as being a male and as I found it hard to tolerate at times, I certainly understand the male gender more than I once did.

My female friends would just tell me they were sorry and sugar coat everything. He made me see so many truths about myself I would have never seen. I've been trying to incorporate masculine traits into my personality to achieve balance and he has been guiding me.

He is a brilliant man, none have ever came close to the insight and teachings he gave to me on how to deal with life. In just about every e-mail he would tell me balance is the goal and it's OK to be emotional, but lets try to reason out some of these problems instead of feeling passive about them and letting them fester until I became passive- aggressive.

Cactus, I guarantee anything you tell me it would not offend me and I almost bet I could understand it or "get it" PM me and with something and I will show you.

Yin & Yang = balance


Tammy