Just as Kathy mentioned, I had to really ask myself why.

I met my (now ex?) boyfriend a couple years ago. We've been on and off, largely bc of untreated ptsd (he just started treatment about 6 mos ago). It surfaced several months after we started dating - after we'd already fell in love. I moved 1000 miles away (bc of plans I'd made before I met him) and that only served to complicate the issue. But, we stayed connected, and I dealt with the on/off because I said that I loved him "sooooo" much.

Well, guess what? Sometimes "love" - or whatever that binding thing is - isn't enough. I told myself that if I really loved him, that I'd do anything. Well, that's just too ridiculous. That's the crap Hollywood feeds us.

In short, I realized my why wasn't good enough. Yes, I care. But, he DOESN'T have anything to give. I've been the one to do pretty much everything...after he initiates a little, of course. And, before I know it, I've been doing all the work. So, I've washed my hands of it. I wish him the best of luck. But, when someone is so dyfunctional that they can't even respond to a text message asking to just message anything, that you just want to know if they're ok... well, that says it all for me. I don't need and/or want a one sided relationsihp anymore.