May I ask why you were offended? Were you in such a relationship yourself? I certainly meant no offense to anyone, simply giving my opinion based on my professional experience. Codependent features are on a spectrum just as any other disorder, not everyone in such a relationship is going to behave identically or for the same reasons. Some do have the best of intentions and truly feel they are in love. However, others definitely seek out partners to control for their own satisfaction, under the guise of being helpful and/or loving. In my experience I have seen both. And more often than not, once someone recovers from this helping behaviour, they admit to being far more controlling than they originally realized.