A very insightful and logical 2 cents worth Shoshin :-)

A friend I have here in the U.K suggessted the same approach - it makes sense!
I guess the beauty of what we have is that he does not impose himself on me, he waits for me to contact him. So I could just refrain from doing that until I understand all of this better.

I could set myself some boundaries - not too good at that! But I want to achieve some clarity so I will work hard at sticking to what I set out for myself.

Usually - I would set the boundaries have a difficult time and break them - be back on the phone, text, mailing him. I dislike how that makes me feel - the needy feeling. I think that is why I go to the extreme because I can handle cutting things out rather than managing them!-another thing Ihave learned :-)

My first intergrative therapy is next week (5 months since my inittial CBT)- I am sure that all of this has been heightened by my anxiety over that. It's going to be the toughest part and I am dreading how I know it will make me feel - its bloody unfair to have experienced all of the trauma in the 1st place and now I have to be open to reliving it to heal - I know it is the 'key' to unlocking my wants and desires........but I wished there was another way! It feels like I know a storm is coming and I am running around in circles rather than preparing myself.

Anyway, how about you Shoshin? How are you doing? How are you feeling since being back? How is your head feeling?

Spirit x