Thanks so much Kathy.
He has never said "do not contact me". I asked him last weekend when I was there and witnessed the "numbing part" if he minded that I send the odd text message. he replied that it didn't bother him. He says, "I just ignore the phone and my cell when I don't feel like talking. Taking your advice, I left a brief mesage on his answering machine saying "just wanted to say hi, and if you don't feel like talking that's ok". No response of course, but I expected that. What a roller coaster...lol. Thank you very much for your support!