Very good insight into the situation Shoshin, thank you for sharing your experiences! It is always good to hear from the sufferers, I wish you would all post in here more often!

Kazzy, I was a bit brief the other day. I did not mean that you should break up with him nor do anything drastic. That is of course up to you, only you can know what's best in the situation. However, I am concerned that you are very unhappy, and you should be thinking of your own happiness, not only his. That is why I say, think about what you want from the relationship, how long you are willing to wait for him, what you would like to see happen in future, and so forth. You count too and your feelings are also important. And, if you know clearly what you want, it will be easier for you to communicate with your boyfriend, when the time comes.