thank you bat girl . you writing how you feel has helped me to see some of what my hubby is feeling. only thing is he says he hurts, and is in pain, physical, but will not seek help for it. I might sound selfish, but i am tired of hearing he is in so much pain, if he doesn't want to get help for it. I listen every time he says it, and everytime i say, well lets make a appt. he says , NO.