this is a great thread!

as a wife of a PTSD spouse, i definitely get my down times, more than i would like to admit. as my hubby hasn't yet recognized it himself, although diagnoised (sp) he refuses to get help. I can't say this is harder than anyone else, but its the hardest point in our relationship, even thru 3 depolyments.

we also have a young son, 5, and i have to referree all day, when he comes home from work, till the time our son goes to bed. they consistently try to battle each other, then come to me. I have learned that 'shower time' is MY time. NO more kids in the shower with me! and I have to watch my stress and anxiety, as i get frequent migraine headaches with NO signs. I learned to eat anything i want, as if i try to diet, i get more migraines, and then we all 3 are grouchy! , and i get as much sleep as i can, after 'my' time on the pc.

i am always there for my family and any time they want to talk i am here, but when i need a shoulder, i call my friends and family from our previous base. they really do help me thru some tough days. i don't have any friends here yet, but hopefully soon, i will be able to trust someone ( i have a extremely hard time trusting ppl)

my hubby is emotionally unavailble, but i think its more he doesn't know what to do when i am in a 'down' moment. i just call up my friends, i know he cares, he just don't know how to listen or show it, so i just 'bypass' him for that part.

soon, hopefully , he will be less stressed, and we can talk again.