wow. ok, as far as i know, if you get charged with DV, in the us army, they take you out of the quarters, if your married, for 72 hrs. then the soldier, gets counceling, anger management, and its soley based on the commander of his unit or company, weither he gets any 'bad things' as rank taken, loss of pay etc....yes you can get in trouble for not paying your bills, and also, if you dont have a family care plan, if you get deployed, like someone to take care of your kid,etc... ( it would be me in our case that takes the 'caregiver' if hubby would get deployed again.

kathy, hubby also has those wonderful flashbacks and nightmares, i too have learned to wake him from his feet, never touchinghis arms or face again! also in one flashback, i was sleeping and he just grabed me like he was going to hug me, but then started chocking me! i had to nail him in the ribs to get him to let go. he never knew he did it. and i f i haden't payed attention to my aunt telling me about her hubby doing that when he came back from WW2, i would have flipped out!