Kathy, I find this information really useful. This seems more productive than making assumptions that people are co- dependent and dysfunctional in some way for caring for an adult who is ill. (not pointing any fingers etc..)

I am no longer in my relationship, but I certainly understand how people would want to try to stay and relieve the suffering in some way. I'm sure it does have a price to do this. But, maybe that's a truly deep love.