Hi. This is my first time posting on any internet site but I really feel for what you are going through so here goes. My husband has been medically retired with chronic and severe PTSD so I really identified with your posts about your husbands behavior and your confusion. Believe me you are not alone. He really needs counselling and I can tell you about an awesome non- profit where he can get free PTSD counselling off post without his command ever finding out. It's called "give an hour"; click on find a provider, enter your zip code and they will show you doctors in your area that donate their time to soldiers with PTSD. It is completely free and confidential.

After my husband was diagnosed the army hospital here at Ft Bragg did nothing but pump him full of meds. No counselling appointments were available for 6 months due to the high volume of soldiers needing help and not enough docs. Believe me, my husband and I would not have made it this far without counselling. He has been sick for almost two years now and I am finally accepting that as long as he is trying to learn coping skills through counselling that is all I can ask for. I wish I could write more but I am so tired by this time of night. I was actually looking for some advice myself but it turns out just reading everyone's posts has helped me a lot. It reminds me that my husband and I are not the only ones going through this, and he is not purposefully neglecting me and our sons. If you need any more advice or have any questions please don't hesitate to ask. It sounds like your husband may need to medically retire and if that is the case make sure you hook him up with the AW2 program. They have one at Ft. Bragg and Walter Reed Hospital. They can be a great source of support for you and your husband. Even if he want's to stay in the Army they can help. Just hang in there girl.