I am a very self reflecting person and i can only agree with what Nicolette wrote. This forum helped me a lot to actually vocalize the things i need my husband to do for me to make it bearable for me. For instance: "Please let me know where you go when you leave the house" (he just used to be gone and not answer his cellphone when i came home from work) "Please let me know when you gone be back" (Just showing up drunk in the middle of the night). I am glad that i could get through to him on these aspects , because it used to drive me crazy with worry when he did this an regular bases.

I guess i am trying to say that communication is very important to get through this time.