Sairadance, what you are asking is very common. If you read past posts you will see there are some posts from Carers who speak of 'walking on eggshells'. It seems to be most common when the Sufferer is ill and the Carer has to try and judge what is going on and how to react.

It is good that you did not bring up anything stressful in the phone conversation with your boyfriend and I do hope things get better for you. Do be careful of trying to rush things and asking your boyfriend to see you as, while you are excited, he may only move slowly and your excitement may cause him to regress.

Saying all this, what Lindsay says is also relevant in that you need to work out if coping with this situation is right for you. You may find that your boyfriend may need to call most of the shots while he is unwell as he is the best one to ascertain what he is capable of and anything outside of that may be stressful for him. How you can cope with this will be for you to decide. Remember, you are important too and only you can decide whether your needs are being met and whether you can deal with what the relationship requires of you.

Do take care.